What Is 'Style' And Do You Have It?


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In the grand scheme of things it probably seems trivial that I spent the majority of my teen years worrying about whether or not I would be considered fashionable, but I did. Back then I would hugely overthink my outfits, I was envious of my older sister's fashion sense and honestly I just wished that I could hurry up and figure out the whole 'personal style' thing for myself because quite frankly it felt like something that everyone else had figured out except for me. Looking back, I just want to shake my younger self and tell teenage me to stop worrying and go back to watching Hannah Montana or something...

So that brings me to the age old question, at the ripe age of 22 (how am I already 22?) have I now discovered my own personal style? Well yes and no, because (long story short) I had it all along.


I feel like there are so many connotations with the word 'style' and when we say or hear those words certain things tend to come to mind, but in my humble opinion, style is wearing what you want to wear, however you want to wear it and being comfortable and confident with that. When it comes down to it, who decides what is deemed fashionable or stylish? Fashion changes as time goes on and so do people's perceptions of it, but being confident in what you're wearing never really goes out of style and it's those people who I look up to.


You see, the thing is...


Everyone has style. 

I used to think that I didn't have my own sense of style because I'm not a pro fashion blogger, a celebrity, a stylist, a designer or a model and when push comes to shove nowadays I have a degree in Film and Television and that doesn't exactly scream "I'm stylish!" (<- although really, what on earth does scream that....?).

What I've realised over time is that a lot of us are actually interested and passionate about fashion and styling, it's just that we may not feel confident enough to shout that from the rooftops. Maybe your own unique style is understated or maybe you just think that how you dress isn't 'unique' enough to be considered universally stylish, so we keep our feelings in and avoid any questions centred around defining our personal style.

Regardless, I really believe that we all have our own style inherently and even though yours might change or evolve over time, it's there. So be proud of your personal style at any given moment in your life and embrace that.






Everyone defines style differently. 

It's easy to think of style quite narrow-mindedly but try to remember that we each define it in our own ways and we have every right to, that's what keeps things interesting.

In the same vein, try not to let other people's opinions of what style is influence your own definition of the word.

Just because one person might be the considered the pinnacle of street style for example, if you dress the polar opposite to them that doesn't mean you don't have street style- it just means your style is different. This may sound obvious to a lot of you but this lesson is one that took me far too long to learn!

The moral of the story is that if you think you have your own personal style or sense of fashion, that doesn't make you arrogant or conceited or silly, but do try and keep an open mind and don't forget that just because you don't think someone has any style, that doesn't make it true.






Style isn't a destination. 

Contrary to what I thought when I was around 13, you won't just wake up one day and be stylish. You won't reach a certain age and suddenly be able to piece together these phenomenal outfits that you would never even have thought of before, sadly it just doesn't seem to work that way.

When I was little I genuinely remember thinking that when I was older I would know exactly how I wanted to dress myself and I would look great all the time and that would be that. Oh little Julia, how wrong you were.

I found that when I stopped thinking of personal style as something that I had to reach (like crossing a finish line) then it really relaxed my whole definition of what style and being 'fashionable' is all about. I think that if you think of style as a destination then you'll probably never feel like you've reached it.

Rather than that, try and think of your style as something that you always have, but it's shifting, changing and evolving with each day.


You don't need other people to confirm or deny it.

You don't need to wait for someone to say you're stylish to make it so. It's really easy to get caught up in what other people think (about everything) but I think especially with topics as controversial and subjective as fashion, it's a different story. If you read 30 blog posts and articles about how blue jeans are 'out of style' then yeah, it can be hard to walk around in your blue jeans feeling like you're the most fashion-forward person out there. Realistically, every fashion 'rule' or trend out there has sprung from the mind of a person, just a person, so why do they get to choose what's stylish? Decide for yourself and own it.


You know what, I don't think I've ever written 'style' as much as I have in this post (and now the word is starting to lose all meaning...) but on a serious note, do you agree that we're all stylish?


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135 comments:

  1. Love your outfit and totally appreciate this post. I sometimes struggle to to find my style, so I can totally relate to this.

    WWW.MARIANNYC.COM

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    1. Thanks Mariann, I'm so happy you liked this post :)

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  2. That is so true! Everyone in the world has a style, some just don't have the same style as many other people and that's fine. I remember picking out clothes for school for over an hour, not wanting the other girls in my class to laugh at what I wear. But right now, I just don't give a crap what I'm wearing - I simply wear clothes that makes me feel comfortable in my own skin.

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    1. I think that's brilliant! I really do look up to those kind of people the most, the ones that just wear what they feel comfortable and happy in.

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  3. This is a really great post and has absolutely made me rethink my opinion of my 'style'. I very rarely feel stylish but when fall and winter come around I am definitely much happier with the way I put an outfit together! So my season is nearly here and I'm happier again!

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    1. Wow, that makes me thrilled to hear Elishia. I much prefer my style in fall/winter as well, coats and boots and jumpers are so me!

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  4. Couldnt agree more - so true! We all have style and we all dress up specific way that we enjoy the most! xx

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  5. Such a great post! Love that Kate Spade bag too, so cute x

    Tiffany Tales | Beauty & Lifestyle

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    1. Thanks Tiffany, Kate Spade do so many nice bags I find!

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  6. Totally agree! :) I love your outfit choice, very simple yet so chic!

    Sabina | www.IveGotSunshine.com

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  7. I love this post and the layout of it :)

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  8. Love the outfit and the ambient
    xx
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  10. I do agree that everybody has their own style, but not everybody has style per se. For me, style does not only relate to mere clothes - while obviously some are more talented than others when it comes to mix pieces together, style is also (and above all) about elegance, the way you move, kindness of heart, and the talent you have to always be on point... Plus a certain little thing we can't define yet! Thank you so much, you may have inspired a blog post! :D x
    Margaux ・ www.bonjourwhite.com

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    1. That's great to hear, thanks Margaux! It's always nice to hear other's opinions and I do agree that there is definitely something about style that we can't quite define yet.

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  11. Wow, I really love these photos!! I think these might be your best yet :) Your outfit looks styled beautifully- simple, elegant and very you. I also really like the location you chose, it makes your outfit pop.
    I have changed my style a lot over the years and must admit to a few years of being a fashion victim, followed by a few years of I just want to be comfortable (but in reality just didn't have the patience to find things I genuinely liked so just settled for one of the first things I'd find) BTW, I like your quote :)

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    1. Thanks Phoebe! It was so nice to be able to shoot these shots on the streets of New York, it made for a much needed location change from Melbourne.

      I think we all go through waves with our style and that's part of the reason why I wanted to write this post. Obviously with each person it's different but at the same time, I like the idea that we all have our own style no matter what- even if it is just based on comfort!

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  12. I love these photos. Also great post. As a fashion student I feel a kind of pressure to always look "stylish" but I think style is created from our own individuality.


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    1. I can imagine there might feel some pressure as a fashion student! I definitely agree with what you said though, style is created from our own individuality (<I love that quote!).

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  13. Wonderful post! I never really thought myself as stylish, I just really liked clothes. It's not until I was older that I realized style isn't one direction, it's about the individual and their creativity. I also tend to love fall fashion way more. During the summer, I'm always in maxis or tanks and shorts.

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    1. Love what you said here, I think when I was younger I really thought of style as a one directional thing as well.

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  14. You look so pretty! <3

    Blessings,
    Edye | Http://gracefulcoffee.com

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  15. You look amazing ! That top is beautiful.

    Stacey White
    www.staceylouisewhite.blogspot.co.uk

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  16. I'm totally with ya. Style is basically your personality but it is shown through your clothes. Love your this look!

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    1. That's how I feel too, and thank you Rach :)

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  17. Loving your style. That bag is so cute and lovely photos x

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  18. You hit the nail on the head by saying 'Style is wearing what you want to wear, however you want to wear it'. That's the beauty of personal style meeting with fashion; each blogger/model/stylist etc. puts the fashions together in a slightly different way that works for them. It's a beautiful thing, really, I agree! :)

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    1. Exactly, and I love seeing how each person puts things together!

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  19. Love that outfit and I'm jealous it's turning summer over there and over here in Germany it's getting colder and winter is coming..

    Nina
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    1. Don't worry it's been freezing here for ages!

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  20. Love your outfit! I think that style is such a great way to express yourself, and allows each and every one of us to be unique :)

    Emily
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  21. Love this post, you write beautifully :)

    xx Rapunzel

    https://rapunzelthepsychologist.com/

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  22. Oh my goodness! This whole post is exactly like my own "style journey" when I was younger! I couldn't wait to grow up and become stylish. I was so obsessed that I read so many "elements of style" books and style history books just so I could be prepared for when I was finally old enough to buy the stuff I wanted. While I am still developing my own personal style, in the sense of feeling more confident to wear the things I want, it's great to see that I wasn't the only one thinking like this when I was younger. Such a great post and outfit!

    ~Alexandra
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    1. Oh you weren't alone at all in thinking that! But it's true, I used to think I was the only one like that too.

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  23. Lovely outfit and photos dear, thanks for sharing!

    Faye .x

    Blog: http://www.fayeisabella.co.uk/2016/10/how-to-be-parisian.html
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  24. Great post lovely, I couldn't agree with you more! Style is defiantly a personal preference.

    Nicole xx | www.nicolesbeautybabble.com

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  25. Great post! You definitely have style!

    Xx
    Molly
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    1. That's so sweet of you to say, thanks Molly! :)

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  26. Love this post!! So true its not a destination!!! And love that bag :D

    xx SofiaaDot
    sofiaadot.wordpress.com

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  27. Love the post, you totally have a great style and it most definitely not the destination but the journey!
    Happy Monday, love!
    PS: The Gender Reveal post is now live on my blog! :)
    xoxo, Vanessa
    www.WhatWouldVWear.com

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    1. That's so nice of you to say Vanessa! :)

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  28. I really like this! I think style is very different from fashion, fashion is what's new and "in" while style is how you put those pieces together. Everyone has their own interpretation of style and I think that's great! :) xx

    -Mitzee

    mitzeeruth.blogspot.com

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    1. I love your interpretations of the words as well :)

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  29. I couldn't agree more with you, beautiful! Personal style is very personal, which we'd think is pretty obvious, but as you've pointed out, it in fact is not and is often influenced by expectations rather than preference. I loved your explanations for what true personal style is and why and I love your outfit here as well! Thanks so much for sharing, beauty, and I hope you have a great week ahead!

    XO,

    Jalisa
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    1. I agree, so often our personal style is influenced by other factors and it's quite sad really.

      So happy you liked this post and outfit as well! :)

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  30. Yes, yes, and yes! We all have style and it differs from person to person. Some people have a knack of being effortlessly chic, others are more eccentric and then there is someone like me who dress for comfort. Regardless, everyone is stylish in their own right.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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    1. I loved your entire comment and was nodding my head whilst reading it!

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  31. Firstly, these photos are absolutely incredible!! Secondly you do look amazing and I totally agree with this post, style is completely different to all of us!

    Elle
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    1. Thank you so so much Elle! New York is such a beautiful place to shoot photos, I wish I could take photos there all the time :(

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  32. Well rules were always made to be broken and fashion can be such a contradiction at times. Those rules are almost always broken and trends come and go. I believe style is something from within and you're right, everyone has their own sense of it and dresses in a way that best represents them. Whether they're aware of it or not.

    Sxx
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    1. Agreed, style definitely comes from within and I think that's what fascinates people so much- seeing how our insides are reflected on our outsides!

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  33. This look is giving me really good Taylor Swift vibes. You look great!

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    1. I've never heard that one before but thank you Angie!

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  34. Really like your pretty monochrome striped top it look so gorgeous on you!

    Laura xo
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  35. You've got a classy style and it really suits your personality. Nicely written and I like all your photos. I'm following you now in Bloglovin to get updates, I hope you would like to follow back. Thanks!

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    1. Thank you Mercy that's so lovely of you to say! :)

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  36. I love the quote and it's true - everyone has style in their own unique way! Great look babe!

    Tina
    www.justatinabit.com

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  37. So pretty!!

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  38. I discovered my style not many years ago. Before that, I wanted to dress both elegant and girly but I loved dressing casual with jeans and sneakers and I just couldn't decide if that was me or I just wanted to dress like that because I loved the look when I saw it on other people. These days I dress how I feel like. And girly that is! I wear and love dresses and they are my favourite clothing item to wear, especially in summer. I am not following trends just wear what a I like. Everyone is different and has their own style.

    Yiota
    PinkDaisyLoves

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    1. That's really great, I tend to do the same now and I think it's so much better because I just wear what I feel happy, confident and comfortable in :)

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  39. Gorgeous and chic! Love your stripe top.

    Sincerely,


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  40. I agree completely with your definition of style. We all have a style that may or may not follow the current fashion, but the most important is to be and feel comfortable in what we are wearing.
    I really like your style here. Great top and bag. :)
    xo
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡

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    1. Thank you so much and I agree. I think it's great that we all have our own style as well, otherwise everything would be so boring.

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  41. I am obsessed with your shoes, well your whole outfit actually you look amazing. www.justlittleellen.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Wow thank you! That's so sweet of you to say :)

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  43. I completely agree with this post! You already possess a style at every age, whether you really understand it or not. It doesn't have to mean wearing the latest trend. I always pick myself apart for the way I used to dress, but that was what felt most comfortable for me at the time. Thank you for posting this! It really made me come to terms with younger me.

    Misha K | www.mishakhan.com

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    1. That makes me really happy to read and it was quite therapeutic writing this post as well, it was kind of like finally letting go of the shame of how I used to dress!

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  44. I love stripes, and you sure are working them well! Love this look. Have a lovely weekend ;)

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  45. True blog inspiration! You have a great sense of style! We can't wait to read your other posts! ❤️

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  46. this post was honestly amazing! i've been in that boat too, where just because you aren't a pro blogger or some celeb then your style... well just isn't. but like you said, it's all about perception.

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    1. Exactly! So glad other people understood where I was coming from with this post.

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  47. I very much agree that we´re all stylish in our own way. Some people may have a more elaborated style while others are still stuck in their teenage style. It´s definitely a journey not a destination. I´m currently trying to get out of my teenage style, something which my younger sister has somehow already managed but I think I´m definitely improving. This was such an interesting post to read!
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    1. Thank you Lisa! I'm really happy you could relate and found this interesting to read :)

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  48. I agree. Style is so personal and it's a shame to feel like you have to follow certain rules to be stylish. I think style changes over time (that's why it's personal). Looking back I've gone through a dozen types and to this day, it's still evolving.

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    1. Mine is the same, I think everyone's is its just a matter of realising it!

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  49. I really enjoyed this post through & through, sweetie! Style or being stylish is such a personal thing. While it is true that some people struggle to put a few item of clothing together or it's quite tough for them to "style" different pieces, there is also the solid truth - everyone has their own style and it's not right to be dictated what's "in" and what's "out". I do appreciate all the fashion trends and things like that. It's nice to see the fashion changing through times. However, the point stays the same and it stands strong - if something suits you, looks amazing on you and reflects how you feel/what you like, it means you've got style :) And btw, I love your style, hon!
    xox Nadia
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    1. I loved this comment and I agree, fashion trends are great but when people start basing style on trends that's what bothers me!

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  50. completely agree with what you're written here, Julia. i'm definitely more comfortable with my style right now than i was 5 years ago but i still dont think i'm quite there yet. i guess it's all about acceptance and being comfortable in your own skin :)

    Aditi | https://lifeasaditi.wordpress.com

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    1. And being comfortable with exactly where you are right now :)

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  51. You write really wonderfully and make some fantastic points. I think throughout our lives we will continue to learn and grow our own style and that's ok! It's also ok to make mistakes and regret choices you've made, it's all part of the fun!

    Musings & More

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    1. I agree Emily! Thank you for your positive feedback on this post as well! :)

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  52. You look gorgeous!! I love this style of tops, the arm length and round neck is what I usually end up buying xx

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    1. Thank you! I love the cut of that top so I usually end up buying a lot like that as well.

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  53. This is all so true, sometimes I dwell on not being as fashionable as some a little too much. You're right, everyone has their own personal style! I love your outfit too, that top is so nice xx

    Tamz | http://www.throughneweyesx.com

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    1. Thanks Tamz, don't worry I think we all sort of fall into that trap!

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  54. I enjoyed reading your post!
    I have the feeling that nowadays, if you're not super creative in your outfit then you're not styling. And at the same time, if you're too creative, then you look like a total fool. It's quite sad honestly. I totally agree with you on the fact that everyone has his own style and everybody is stylish in their own way!

    Laura | http://www.furiouslychic.ch/

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    1. Sometimes it feels so hard doesn't it, to strike a nice balance! That's why it's so much easier to just dress how you want and not care what anyone else thinks, although obviously that's way easier said than done.

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  55. Adore this post. I have gone through so many different styles before finally discovering my own. It's still quite difficult sometimes because I like basically everything haha.

    x Annabelle
    travelsandtea.com

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    1. Oh see I'm the opposite! I feel like I'm so picky when it comes to clothes, haha

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  56. Great post. Style is something that is just so personal, and mine has continued to evolve and change over time. It still does. With time, you get more confident with your choices and don't even really care what others think about what you wear. At least, that's how I felt for the last few years (I'm older, so it reminds me some of those similar thoughts lol) Love this striped top on you. You look great.

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    Miki
    http://mikialamode.com

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    1. Thank you Miki, I hope I think that way as I get older- I really do.

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  57. This is all so true. We´re all stylish in our own way.
    Lovely post,
    Charissa from http://www.ladygoldapple.com

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  58. You are so adorable! And you definitely have great style. I'm sure you always have :)

    xoxo Alison
    www.stylingmylife.com

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  59. So much YES to this post lady! Style is how we choose to dress and how we express ourselves! We should never be defined on how we dress, nor should we feel obliged to follow trends and rules - we are all stylish in our own way! P.s that Kate Spade bag is the dream! <3

    Hayley xo
    www.frockmeimfamous.com

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  60. Amazing post! Love your style and that striped top is amazing

    http://www.whiteandcapsule.com/style/blush-tones/

    xxxx

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  61. This is such a gorgeous post hun, you look stunning!!! Love the whole outfit, can you please send some nice weather this way, it's so cold haha! :)

    Layla xx
    http://www.sprinklesofstyle.co.uk

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  62. Wow this was so well written and such a joy to read! I can definitely relate to spending your teen years worrying a ton about style. When I was little, I was obsessed with creating a unique style that was characteristically 'me.' And I did. I had fun with it. And now, that I have a style that I identify with, I find myself getting angry at myself when I don't wear an outfit that I'm proud of, when I'm not living up to my 'style'. That's so stupid though, because like you said, whatever you wear- that's your style! Thanks for this post, it really make me think in a different way.
    Julia || Julia in Bluhm

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    1. I feel the exact same way Julia, especially about not living up to your own style which happens to me but as you said it's just not the case!

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  63. I love your style! It is so casual chic & relatable. Style is eternal and it evolves with time, yours is definitely one of the more inspiring ones. Love how you styled everything in this post, now I need that stripe top! :P It was such a nice read love, enjoy your day!

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    1. Wow thank you so much! That was such a nice comment to read :)

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  64. love the message of this post! good job!;) i also love your outfit, it is really cute! :) xx

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  65. Gorgeous! Love the top, tres chic! x
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  66. The outfit you have wore is perfect. I am loving the piece also I am going to buy the same outfit this summer.

    melissa@Dermology anti aging cream and serum

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