How To Appreciate The Little Things In Life


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STOP WORRYING.
If you read that and thought "What do you mean, I'm not worrying about anything?" then congratulations, I envy you (and you're also probably in the minority.) For everyone else out there, I feel your pain.

As a chronic over-worrier, sometimes my life gets overwhelming and it's not even that something bad has happened, it's just that I focus too much on the negatives instead of the positives and it all ends up feeling a bit like life is punching me in the face. Instead of throwing myself a pity party (even though it's tempting) lately to keep myself sane I've been trying to focus on everything and anything positive and I've realised that I have a hell of a lot to be thankful for. It's all about appreciating the little things, you know?

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I tend to think that if we're all more appreciative of the smaller things in life then it's more difficult for the big bad things to bowl us over, because we always have something to be happy about regardless of anything bad that happens- if that makes sense?



So here are a few small things to be thankful for. Nothing special, nothing ground-breaking, nothing that will necessarily knock your socks off, but teeny little things to be happy about. You add up all those teeny tiny things and all of a sudden they amount to you having a pretty damn good day.








Appreciate good weather. 

Good weather in Melbourne? Does that even exist?! It's rare, but it's there. If you're lucky enough to live somewhere with a perfect climate then relish it, but otherwise soak up those moments when you look outside and the weather makes you smile. Sometimes it's sunny outside and that genuinely makes me excited about the day (partly because I'm always freezing) but sometimes it's pouring rain and I'm inside under blankets with a hot chocolate and nothing makes me happier.


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Appreciate your space. 

This might be a weird one but appreciate your home, or your bedroom, or wherever it is that you can plant yourself and just relax.

When I'm out and about I find I can get tense really easily but then I just come home, hop into pyjamas (which I live in 99% of the time) and I get a real sense of relief and comfort just being home, safe and warm and in a space where I can virtually do whatever I want to.

Maybe it's because I'm quite introverted but I enjoy my own space so much. Like I said, it's all about the little things for me.
Appreciate the yin and yang. 

I once heard that apparently we're all supposed to strive for a permanent even ground between happy and sad, which means that you're never really upset or depressed but you also wouldn't get ecstatic about anything either, theoretically. Call me crazy, but I'd rather feel really sad (within reason) if it means that I also get to feel really, jumping on the walls happy. I think it's only by going through the bad times that you fully appreciate the good times. I know that in my own life I look back on some of the toughest times I've ever had and it just makes me so so happy with where I'm at right now, all of sudden I appreciate everything I have now and I'm relieved I'm not back in that negative space like I used to be.

So the next time you're feeling down, it sounds a bit twisted but try and appreciate the fact that there's an up-side coming soon and when it does come, you're really going to relish it.


Appreciate a good start to your day. 

Underrated! I'm sorry but I do wake up grumpy sometimes, I just do, that's why I always try to go to sleep in a good mood (to increase my chances of waking up in that same mood).

If you do wake up in a good mood, treat that like a prize because if I wake up in a bad mood it really does throw my entire day off. In a similar vein, appreciate those mornings when you can get a little extra sleep, when you actually have time to slow down and make your breakfast or maybe read a bit of your favourite book or watch your favourite TV show. Those slow, relaxed mornings are few and far between for me but oh how I appreciate them.







Appreciate warm showers and fresh bed sheets. 

There's nothing better.




If I've learned one thing in my 22 years it's that I need to not let life overwhelm me so much. Most of the things I worry about would probably rate a 1 on a 0-100 scale of importance, so I really need to let go, go with the flow a lot little more and just value all of the little things in my life that I have to be happy about and focus on that.

Focus on the positives, forget the negatives (aka my new life mantra). All easier said than done, I know, but I'm working on it.












What are your thoughts on appreciating the little things?

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83 comments:

  1. What a lovely post. I am learning to be grateful and appreciate the little things. I try to think of a few things each day that I am thankful for having. So many things are taken for granted these days. I think it's important to focus on the good things and not the bad.

    Sarah's abode -xx

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    1. I agree, even though to be honest this week I've really struggled to take my own advice! Something I've been trying though is waking up and listing things in my head that iMm grateful for.

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  2. I worry about EVERYTHING, and it really sucks somedays, but yes the little things are the best things to get rid of the sadness or worrisome. Cuddling with my dog always makes me feel better, and just getting into my little world and getting rid of everyone always feels best. x

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    1. Me too, huge worrier right here and it's exhausting isn't it?

      I used to love cuddling my cat as well, it just made me feel so comforted :)

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  3. Thanks for this positive post! I enjoyed reading this! Also, your outfit is so minimal and chic - loving it!x

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    1. Thank you! So happy you liked my outfit and this post!

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  4. such a lovely post! haha I'm introverted as well so the pointer about appreciating your space realllly makes sense to me. I work in a role where I feel like I'm constantly talking to people, and surrounded by people. It's so nice to go home and have no one to talk to (as terrible as that may sound?)

    Metallic Paws

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    1. No that makes perfect sense to me! When I'm around a lot of people I always find I need to recharge and just be by myself for a while to recover...

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  5. Darling appreciate Melbourne!!! I live in Manchester, UK and it rains and dark 90% of the time so trust me Melbourne is a dream for me:) xx

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    1. Oh wow that must be tough! Melbourne definitely has some interesting weather but it has its moments.

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  6. These are such great tips. I'm a worrier too but I find doing relaxing activities always makes me feel better x

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  7. Like you, I'm a chronic overworrier (understatement, really) and case in point - last night spent 20 mins over an angry email that was sent round and wondering if it was my fault! I'm also trying hard to work on this too - take it and move on, making sure I don't spend too long dwelling on something I can no longer change and focus on something I can do better in the future :-) haha melbourne is so nostalgic for its 4 season a day weather eh? at least it's supposed to be summer there right?! London is rainy/cold as hell and I hate winter! >:)

    Cherie | sinonym

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    1. The weather is heating up here but it's bug central currently, I'm not loving Melbourne at the moment!

      I definitely sympathise because I'm an over worrier as well, and I think honestly dwelling just makes things so much worse for me.

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  8. I know what you mean! Sometimes it's easy to get bogged down in the crappy things and forget about the things that make you smile. this is lovely 😊 Thanks!

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  9. Lovely post, I loved your new York pictures (is that central park?) As you get older you appreciate the little things :)

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  10. I completely agree that we should all try to appreciate the little things. Every time I do, my day seems a million times better.
    Love,
    Thays

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  11. Yes to your own space, to clean sheets, and good starts. I'm also a chronic worrier. It's important to have your own space to decompress!

    Alyse (J.X.L.) ▲ Lumière & Lens

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  12. If there's ever a post that I needed today, it's this! Stunning photos and such beautiful tips. The little things really do make the difference!

    Elle
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    xx

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    1. That makes me ridiculously happy to read Elle! Thank you!

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  13. I couldn´t agree more with your points here. I´m also a pretty big over-worrier (thanks, anxiety!) & I find that letting go of that even if it´s just for a moment really helps. Also I totally agree, hot showers & fresh sheets are the best. I try to have a long, hot shower every Sunday & change my bedsheets every other week & there´s really nothing better than that with a nice tv show!
    xx Lisa | Following Lisa

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    1. You've just described my heaven, I completely agree Lisa!

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  14. Appreciating little things in life can fill happiness in your life. Small changes can do wonders in your life. We should value our lives and appreciate what we have.

    Dermology Skin Care

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    1. I agree Melissa, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts :)

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  15. Appreciating both the little things and the much bigger things truly is the recipe for a happy life! Reducing how much we spend time worrying is a great tip and something we all need to be reminded of every now and again :)

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

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  16. Great tips, thank you for sharing. I'm definitely learning to appreciate the little things in life :)

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  17. what a wonderful post! and you are so right! <3

    xoxo,
    marie

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  18. Thanks for sharing this lovely post! I used to worry about everything and then a friend of mine told me something very wise and made me think. She said: will worrying about everything solve your problems? If it will do, then continue to do it. But if it will not help you, why put the extra pressure and stress to you? That made me realize that stress does not help any situation nor it solves any problems!!

    Yiota
    PinkDaisyLoves

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    1. That's so true! The worrying itself does nothing yet for some reason it's my first reaction to so many situations.

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  19. This is something I'm desperately trying to learn and I'm trying to be more mindful during my daily routine of things to appreciate. It's amazing how wrapped up we can get about worrying!!

    Sinéad ♥ fabuleuse, toujours ♥

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    1. I know! I'm really trying to appreciate more just day to day as well.

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  20. ultimately it's these little things, the seemingly inconsequential of the everyday that can matter most to our well-being so I'm all for it. And God knows I appreciate good weather, the one day of summer a year we get in Scotland is certainly made the most of! :D

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    1. I'm right there with you, we had a sunny day in Melbourne today but by night time it was raining and awful!

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  21. Great post and I totally agree you have to have the bad times to really appreciate the good ones x

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    1. I try to remind myself of that during times as well.

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  22. Loved this post lady! Some excellent tips on how to relax and appreciate what's going on around us! I need to take your advice and stop worrying all the bloody time hahah, it's so hard but we really do need to take a step back and appreciate what's going on around us!

    Hayley xo
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    1. I know, sometimes it's like the harder I try to stop worrying the more I worry! I'm worrying about worrying...that's just painful, haha

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  23. Aah I loved this a lot! I'm such a worrier and overthinker as well but it's so true, finding joy in all those little things always helps at least a bit :) The second point you mentioned, appreciating your space, is actually so important but something I never really think about. Like I'm love being at home so much and reading this just made me realise I should be cherishing it a lot more x

    Sara’sChapters

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    1. That's so great to hear Sara, I think there's nothing better than having your own space :)

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  24. These are such beautiful pictures! I'm such an over thinker / over worrier too so this post is really helpful - it's so important to appreciate the little things and I should take a step back and stop worrying so much sometimes!
    Amy xx
    www.callmeamy.co.uk

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    1. Thanks so much Amy! So happy you found this post helpful and could relate :)

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  25. Good weather... hmm it's chucking it down with rain outside and i'm so cold i can't feel my toes... the joys of living in England!
    Aleeha xXx
    http://www.halesaaw.com/

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    1. Ah if it makes you feel any better yesterday in Melbourne the day started out sunny and warm and ended up raining and windy!

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  26. Great tips, and I love the photos! Oh, and thanks for stopping by NeensBea.com earlier today! :-)

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  27. I feel like if you just relax and stop assuming things before they actually happen, life seems so much more relaxing. Though I don't always do this, I am the best at over thinking and when I realized that I just let things happen I tend to feel so much more at ease. Of course it's always good to plan things out and we all want everything to go the way we want to, but maybe just let it all plan out the way it should :)

    -Mitzee

    mitzeeruth.blogspot.com

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    1. Yes exactly! That comment was so uplifting and I agree, sometimes you have to just let go and go with the flow.

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  28. Ah - I love this post! It's the simple things in life which count, you could have everything and not be happy inside and more often than not, it's the case!

    Love, love, love! Hope you're well and cannot wait to see more - look forward to all your new posts! :)

    Layla xx

    http://www.sprinklesofstyle.co.uk

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    1. Such a sweet thing to say Layla, thank you! I'm excited to get some more content out to everyone :)

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  29. I understand the comfort and great feeling of going home and relaxing! I enjoyed this post.

    http://www.myclusterofthoughts.com/

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    1. I'm really happy you enjoyed reading this Katherine :)

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  30. Beautiful photos and great tips! Appreciating the little things in life is great, because if we are able to appreciate little things, then we will also appreciate the big things. You have a very nice blog, thank you so much for sharing. :)

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  31. I literally worry all the time - I really need to stop, figuring out how is tricky for me.

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    1. I'm in the same boat, in the end what makes me feel better is that when you're worrying you're having worrying negative thoughts and in the end it's just a thought, and thoughts can be changed.

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  32. I think we can never be reminded of appreciating the things we like in our lives too often. It's interesting, the book I'm reading at the moment really emphasises the benefits of doing this in order to invite more of what we like in our lives :)

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    1. I think you're so right, it seems for me at least that when I focus on the negative I just invite more negative things into my life!

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  33. You're spot on. Appreciating the little things really helps putting things into perspective. I even have a small gratefulness diary for those days when I just want to rant.

    Does bad weather in Melbourne compare to bad weather in good old London �� I was in Melbourne back in 2006 and loved it to bits.

    I totally get what you mean about be thankful for your space. My home is my haven. Comfy trackies, sofa and I'm in heaven. It's probably the one biggest thing that makes me realise why I wake up, go to work and all that on a daily basis.

    Maya | londondamsel.co.uk

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    1. Your diary sounds like a really good idea, maybe I should start one of those.

      I feel like London and Melbourne weather are quite comparable!

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  34. I'm such a worrier too but you're right there is so much to appreciate in life! x

    Eleanor Frances | UK Style Blog

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  35. loved reading this! i definitely try to live my life as worry free as possible. everything tends to work out in the end so there's no point in worrying about things that probably aren't going to matter in the long run!

    danielle | avec danielle

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    1. That's a great way to look at things, I should try and keep that perspective as well!

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  36. lovely post! you look great too :) xXx

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  37. Love your simple shirt and shorts outfit - perfect for a hot day!

    I'm a worrier too, I think having a little quiet time and a little space at the end of each day is relly essential to help decompress and unwind!


    Hope you're having a really good week :)

    Away From The Blue Blog

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    1. I agree, some time alone is sometimes all you need :)

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  38. cant tell you how glad i am that i happened upon this post today :D t's definitely something i needed to read! Thankyou for highlighting the little things xx

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    1. That makes me really happy that you liked this post! :)

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  39. Such a lovely post. I really agree with u. love to reading this.
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  40. This post is sooo awesome. So hard to remember sometimes!!!

    Mel | www.thegossipdarling.com

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  41. Such a lovely post to read! I over think and over worry everything and it plays with my emotions and well being, it is something I've been improving on over the years, thankfully. What a beautiful blog you have and your photos are beautiful..xo

    Pinar | www.beautybakingbella.com

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    1. What a lovely comment to read, thank you so much this brightened my entire day :)

      Really happy you enjoyed the post as well, sometimes it's a relief to know that I'm not the only one out there who worries about everything as well!

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  42. It's true that goes to me too "sometimes my life gets overwhelming and it's not even that something bad has happened, it's just that I focus too much on the negatives instead of the positives and it all ends up feeling a bit like life is punching me in the face". Very informative.

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