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Why A New Year Shouldn't Mean A New You

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Did you survive the flood? The flood of the "new year, new me" quotes...

I used to hate those quotes with a passion and while I'm still not the biggest fan, if people want to use each coming year as a metaphorical 'refresh' then I'm on board with that, because why not? The only thing that really bothers me about the "new year, new me" quotes is the idea that we should all be striving to be a different person when the clock clicks over from 11.59pm to 12.00am. Am I not progressing if I don't have 20 new years resolutions and don't want to be a new me?

So despite the flood of 'new beginnings' related content currently drowning the internet, here are some things to keep in mind and a few reasons why a new year doesn't have to mean a new you:

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 -Feel free to stay the same-
There's a misconception that if you stay 'the same' throughout the years that you're not growing, changing or adapting. I've had people meet me after years and say that I'm the same which used to offend me but now I take it as a compliment. Of course I've changed a ridiculous amount over the years but I am still the same person underneath it all.

If you want to reinvent yourself there's nothing wrong with that and it's quite socially accepted, but just know that your perspective can change, you can grow, evolve and learn things and you can still stay the same at your core and that's completely okay as well. Just don't ever let goals, a new year or other people's perspectives and expectations make you feel like you need to change.



-Don't forget everything you've done throughout the year-
To me, the 'new year, new me' goal implies that there was something wrong with who you were throughout the year. Improve upon yourself in the new year but don't let the thought of wanting to create a 'new' you negate who you were and what you've done this past year. I really believe that there's a reason for everything (or at least there has been in my life so far) so even if 2016 was really awful for you, embrace it as a learning year and don't feel like you need to completely erase 2016 from your memory in order to move on.

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-Make little changes instead-
Similar to what I was saying before, you don't have to become a different person to make changes, alter deeply engrained habits and improve your life.

I try to live by the quote "Be a better version of yourself yesterday" and I think that applies to the new year as well. Rather than trying to be a whole new person all at once and then burning out by February, space things out, set goals, work toward them and realise that it's really not a race. Try to improve with each passing day and if you did better than yesterday at whatever it is you're aiming to do then you should be damn proud.



-How many of us can there be?-
If with each passing year there was a new me then by now there would be 22 Julia clones walking around (Orphan Black anyone!?). Obviously the 'new year, new me' quote isn't meant literally but you know what I mean. Take this with a pinch of salt, but what if we all just tried to accept ourselves for where we are in life right now, at this very second with our issues and baggage and all, rather than constantly wishing things in our lives were different or 'better'. Too soppy? But seriously, if you're always wanting things to be bigger and better and brighter than you'll never really be happy in the moment.






How do you feel when it comes to the New Year?
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46 comments:

  1. Firstly, I love the new format of your blog, it looks fabulous, easy to navigate and really showcases everything! Secondly, I agree with your thoughts especially about taking things in little steps or we'll be burned out by February - that's some sound advice that I'm definitely taking on board! I'm looking forward to seeing and reading what you have in store for us this year, your writing and photos are always inspiring :)

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    1. Thank you so much for the feedback on my new blog design Phoebe! I've still got some kinks to work out but it's getting there, so far I'm really happy with it so I'm glad you're liking it as well.

      I hope I can continue to make posts you'll enjoy reading in 2017 :)

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  2. Love reading posts like this. Also love your new layout and photography.

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    1. Thank you Alexandra! That really means a lot :)

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  3. I completely agree that new year is not new you, I believe in self growth, setting goals and trying to achieve them! xx

    www.hairwonderfulday.com

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    1. I'm the same, plus I think that it's good to set goals and revise them throughout the year rather than just leaving it all till January!

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  4. I love the new layout of your blog! Awesome blog post!

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  5. I completely agree with making little changes love, I think it's so much more realistic and easier to stick to rather than setting yourself massive goals and feeling deflated if you can't achieve them. Love this post girl!

    Hayley xo
    www.frockmeimfamous.com

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    1. Ah such kind words, thanks Hayley! I find setting massive goals really intimidating as well, I usually just end up putting everything off anyway because I'm too nervous or anxious to get started!

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  6. I have to say that when I first saw the title I was like eh?? but your points are so true actually - I feel like we're very harsh on ourselves sometimes!! xx

    www.diaryofanexpatgirl.com

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    1. Glad you enjoyed the post in the end Alexandra :) I think in general we're all way too harsh on ourselves just on a daily basis!

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  7. Such a sucker for forgetting all the stuff I've achieved throughout the year! That's why a blog is so handy... it's a great little time capsule. Happy New Year x

    Megan
    Denton & Lou 

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    1. Very true! I love looking back through old posts and using them to relive memories!

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  8. I love this post! It is so positive and such a great reminder! We are always striving to improve but we often forget to tell give ourselves some recognition!

    Much love,
    Marianne x www.beautiful-in-essence.blogspot.com

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  9. Love this post! Very refreshing to read at this time of the year amongst all the other posts out there that tell us we need reinvent ourselves! Your points are incredibly spot on, especially about remembering all the things we DID achieve in the year. More often than not we can be quite harsh on ourselves and only remember what we didn't achieve versus what we did! xx

    Chantalle | www.ceceandgrace.blogspot.com.au

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    1. Yep, that's exactly why I wanted to post this when I did, around this time of the year I always start to feel pressured to reinvent myself!

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  10. I love this post and it is so true!! Its great to make changes but not have the pressure!

    Charlotte x

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    1. Thanks Charlotte, so glad you agree with the post :)

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  11. I agree with a lot of these posts. Personally, I tend not to make a big deal over the new year fresh starts because I feel like it then gives me the mindset that I can't have fresh starts throughout the year like at the start of a new week.
    Aleeha xXx
    http://www.halesaaw.com/

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    1. I'm the same, I like to just set goals throughout the year and change and adapt them.

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  12. Totally agree with this! Little changes yes but to go as far and say a new you? That's a little crazy! I've spent 23 years becoming me, learning things and going through things but whilst I'm all up for improving! I'm not up for building up a whole new me.


    Stacey x
    www.staceylouisewhite.co.uk

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  13. Love this post and also love the new blog layout!

    www.ohsobecky.com

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  14. Making little changes is a brilliant way of gradually adjusting/improving our lives without giving in to the idea of completely shedding the 'old me' for a 'new me'. Great post as always and I love your new blog design!

    aglassofice.com
    x

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    1. Wow thank you Gabrielle, that's really nice of you to say :)

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  15. Yes...it's all about the little changes! Couldn't agree more.

    Also love the format, lady. So clear and easy to read!

    katie xx lacoconoire.com

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    1. Thanks Katie! Really happy you like the new layout :)

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  16. You are so right! Thank you for being honest. New Year can mean fresh start but it's impossible to start over as a human being. We are who we are and we should be proud. It's all about making small changes in our routine to make life better and easier x

    Jessica — NinetyCo 

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  17. Such a great post! I thought I was the only one who felt that way. I completely agree that a New Year is not a new you, what's wrong with the old you? I agree with making little changes and being realistic because when we make huge goals and fail, we feel like a complete failure. Happy New Year! Following you on IG :-)

    Ann-Marie | http://facetocurls.com

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    1. Exactly! Setting huge goals and then not attaining them just makes me feel bad about myself and for 2017 (even though it sounds corny) I just want to start being happy with where I am in each moment, you know?

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  18. Yeah, I don't like the New Year New Me concept. I think everyone should always be trying to be the best person they can be but every year doesn't have to be a fresh start.

    http://ohduckydarling.com

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  19. I love this post!! I have never really been one for new years resolutions but this year I've got a few 'goals' I'd like to achieve before the year end- but it's definitely important to reflect on the achievements we make throughout the year and also notice the little changes that make up big ones after a while!

    http://taradaniella.com/

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    1. To me new years resolutions are kind of different from the goals I set throughout the months because they adapt, but that's just me!

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  20. Such a pretty casual look! Hope you had a great start of the year

    Xx,

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  21. I think it's so important to take some time to reflect on the things we've overcome and accomplished. We all want to do bigger, better things, but we rarely stop and think about how far we've come. Loved this post, hope you had an amazing start of year.

    Paula
    Thirteen Thoughts

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    1. Couldn't have said it better myself Paula, hope you've had an amazing start to the year as well! :)

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  22. I just love the way your wrote this post and I couldn't agree with you more.
    I like that people get inspiration to make new resolutions at the start of the year but I believe anyone can and should assess their life from time to time, appreciate the progress and decide of the changes they need to make.
    Some people feel influences to go with the new year new me because others around them might be saying that and I love how you talk about the fact that is ok to remain who you are of you're happy that way.
    Great post, wonderfully written.
    have a good week dear :)
    xo
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡

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    1. Wow this was such an uplifting comment, thank you so much Sauniya :)

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  23. It's so inspiring and refreshing to read your thoughts here. A lovely post very worth taking note of for 2017. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Xxx

    Best wishes...

    Keep Calm and start writing -
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    1. What a lovely comment to read as well, thanks Amelia :)

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