3 Easy Ways To Be A Better You

Self-improvement tips

Let's just start this post off by saying that how you are right now, right this second is perfecto. Too cheesy? You bet, but I don't want this post to come off like I'm a pushy stranger over the internet giving you unwarranted 'life' tips when I don't really have a clue about you or your life. That's why I only publish these kinds of posts when I genuinely think that what I have to say could positively contribute to someone else's life.

Being a 'better' you is a pretty vague statement, agreed? Everyone has their areas they want to improve on (to be honest I could probably improve in every area so no judgement here) but a lot of the world just ignores or avoids the things they need to improve on. So often people make themselves ridiculously busy, just so that they don't have to deal with or even remember the things that stress them or the changes they want to make in their lives. "Too busy" is a beautiful reason to avoid things.

In 2016 I did a crap load lot of reflection and in 2017 I'm all about evolving into the 2.0 version of myself. So based off certain patterns that I've noticed with myself and those around me, here are 3 (relatively) easy ways to be a better version of you.

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Don't water down your beliefs. 

I'm like a seesaw with this one because sometimes I'm great at expressing my own opinions but then there are other times where I feel like for whatever reason, I have to hide how I really feel about something. Maybe it's because I'm worried I'll offend or insult someone, or maybe I'm just in a group of loud, over-bearing people and I'm too intimated to speak up for fear that they'll overpower me and make me feel small. It happened to me a lot in high school and this is something that as I'm getting older frustrates me more and more.

To be more true to yourself and your believes, respect yourself enough to speak up and contribute your opinions to any given situation or conversation. I'm not saying you should become one of the over-bearing people who shout their opinions from the rooftops like they're gospel, but don't feel intimated or embarrassed to talk about whatever it is you believe- your thoughts are just as valid as the next person's. I have to constantly remind myself of this, but you're not doing yourself or anyone else any favours by not sharing your beliefs and opinions- you're just hiding parts of yourself that make you, you.

So of course be mindful of other people's feelings and all that jazz, but don't ever feel too intimated to speak up.




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Realise that your 'truth' is not someone else's. 

I think being able to share your opinions and beliefs is great. The thing is, even if you think you know what the truth about something is and you wholeheartedly believe it, in the end it's actually only your version of the truth, and someone else may feel completely different.

Have you ever noticed that no two people ever end up telling the exact same version of a story? Or have you ever had someone tell you something shocking or nasty and then follow it up with "...but I'm just giving my opinion!" because I sure as hell have and it's extremely off-putting.

Everyone has their own truth, you have yours but that doesn't make it the only truth and if you remember and accept that then I think everything becomes a whole lot easier. Friendships are easier, relationships are easier, talking to people with completely different beliefs becomes easier. Honestly I think everything becomes easier and you become much more of an open-minded person once you realise that your truth is not necessarily someone else's.




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Be empathetic. 

I'm a sensitive person by nature and I'm not saying this in an 'I'm so great' way but I'm naturally very empathetic as well so it's sometimes hard for me to understand how other people aren't like that. Sensitivity and being sensitive in general are qualities that have gotten dragged through the mud over the years but if you're a crier or someone who feels emotions very deeply- that doesn't make you weak or a 'drama queen', it's an aspect of yourself you should feel proud of. 

It's a simple thing and some people like to call it stepping into someone else's shoes but to be a better you, genuinely try and look at situations from other people's points of views before you react. Try to look past human errors, be empathetic and don't get angry or frustrated at someone because whatever they're doing inconveniences, annoys you or doesn't line up with your plans. Most people are genuinely doing the best they can in any given situation and sometimes all one person needs is a little understanding. 

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47 comments:

  1. Loved this & totally agree with everything you say! Xx

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    1. Thanks Natalie! I'm happy you liked this post :)

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  2. Love this post! It took me practically my whole life to realise that I am a sensitive soul & that it's ok to be that way (I only figured it out just before turning 30). I too have had problems with speaking up & expressing myself (still do from time to time), but when I do I realise that I'm only dudding myself if I keep my mouth shut.

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    1. Thanks Shell! Honestly it's so nice to hear from other people who are sensitive like I am, sometimes it can be really lonely feeling like there's no one around you who reacts the same way.

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  3. Very true about speaking up and contributing when you have something to say! This was something I had set my mind towards especially in a professional setting and it's (I hope) going well so far. I used to think it's the norm that someone could just tell me what to do, but I realised that I am equally entitled to an opinion (within reason, of course)! I'm a very naturally empathising person so I feel emotions very relatably and quickly, it's definitely got its good and bad hahaha. I can't get too attached, that's for sure.

    Cherie ❊ sinonym

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    1. Good for you! I know in a professional setting especially it can be really easy to feel overpowered or like you're not in a position where you can state your own opinions but I think as long as you're respectful about it people actually admire you more for it.

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  4. This is an awesome post! I can always work on being more empathetic ♥
    Amy xx

    Little Moon Dragon

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  5. Omg I totally agree. I'm trying to remember my worth! #1 thing. Second is setting boundaries...

    Mel | www.thegossipdarling.com

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    1. Great point Mel! Setting boundaries is really important as well, in so many different situations.

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  6. Not getting angry or upset with someone because I don't understand why they're doing what they're doing is something I really need to work on right now, more so when it comes to family. I get myself so bogged down with what others are doing, it becomes all consuming and it's such a horrible way to be, it's not healthy that's for sure!

    Sarah :)
    Saloca in Wonderland

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    1. I'm the same with my family! Sometimes it's hard for me to not just take everything personally.

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  7. Such a beautiful post! Thanks for encouraging about self acceptance , something that we all need to hear sometimes! xx

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  8. Some great points here. I definitely need to work on the first point too. xx

    Lucy x | lucy-cole.co.uk

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  9. Firstly, I really like they way you explain everything and I enjoy your writing style. There is much food for thought here :)
    I must admit to having had stubborn streaks and arguing my point, rationalising and justifying it because I just wanted to be right or making judgements about people or things that are really nothing to do with me. Thankfully, I think I have become much more open to acknowledging that a) I could be wrong or b) both parties could be right at the same time c) sometimes It really is none of my business or d) this is important to me, I need to speak up in the most loving way I can. The challenging part, IMO, is having the wisdom, intuition or courage to know when to speak or act and how to do it in the best way.

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    1. I'm really happy I gave you some food for thought and it sounds like you're doing a really great job at reflecting on what areas you'd like to improve on in your life- so props to you! I find it so hard to remember that at times both parties could be right (especially in a big argument) but it's very true....just hard to remember at times.

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  10. You are looking so chic and elegant in such black and white attire. Your style definitely attracted me and the way you carrying your style is also worth watching. The shirt, boots, denim, bag, your hair (you name it) everything suits perfectly here. You are very right when you say that your truth may not be other persons truth too. One must not be judgemental about some person or group of persons. You really look to me beauty with brains!

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    Kate

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    1. Wow thank you Kate! That's a really lovely thing to say.

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  11. I loved reading this post, it felt like I could have written it! I'm sensitive by nature as well, and I also tend to water down my beliefs at times. It's hard to believe in yourself and your truth at times, but these are all such key aspects of being a better version of YOU- and no one else! Thank you for such a refreshing and honest read love xx

    Sending light & love your way,
    My Lovelier Days

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    1. I agree, it is hard to believe and be proud of your truth at times, especially when around intimidating people I find. I love that you found this post refreshing as well, thank you!

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  12. Couldn't agree more with you, "too busy" is just an excuse, an escapist behaviour we use to avoid improving ourselves where it is needed. I could relate to this write up so much, I too have a habit of watering down my opinions whenever I am around over-bearing people hence I started penning my views on my blog at times so I can become more comfortable in voicing my opinions and shall start doing so offline as well. Also, empathy is what this world needs the most :)
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    1. Thanks Ankita, I really agree that the world could use a hell of a lot more empathy as well. I love how you said you express your views on your blog too because that's what I do! Writing my views on this blog is making me feel more comfortable expressing my opinions :)

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  13. I totally agree with these. I've been making more of an effort not to water down my beliefs lately, and speak up about the things that I think matter. It's tough, especially as a really introverted person, but I can feel it making me more confident. And go you for all your self reflection! That's something I've been working on lately, too. :)
    Julia|| Julia in Bluhm

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    1. I'm an introverted person too so trust me when I say I know what you mean, and thank you! I've been doing a lot of self-reflection this year and it's tough at times so it's kind of nice to get a little pat on the back for it, haha

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  14. These are all such brilliant tips, particularly accepting that one person's 'truth' isn't necessarily another person's. Accepting others is the first step to simultaneously living a better life, and making life better for others! Lovely post :)

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice | Worldwide Hotel Chocolat Giveaway x

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  15. Number 2 is key. Our perception is only ours and we must respect other people's!

    I really like your blog posts...super inspiring :)


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    1. Thank you, I only wish more people in the world would start thinking that way as well.

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  16. I loved reading this! I think being empathetic is so important xxx
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  17. What a fab post! Realising your truth is not someone else's is my favourite one. I definitely agree - people have different thoughts and opinions and it's important to not shut someone down just because of this! x

    TOUCHOFGS // BLOGLOVIN 

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    1. Exactly! Sounds like we're definitely on the same page and I think if we all just respected one another's opinions and believes there would be so much less trouble in the world.

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  18. Great post! This speaks volumes to me and really resonates with me. I'll have to keep your advice in mind to refer back to in future too :) thanks for sharing!

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  19. Great read. I loved the first too because I haven’t read them anywhere else before. You should definitely stand up for yourself without putting others down & I think it’s such an important lesson to learn. Like you said, your own truth isn’t everyone else’s. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. I'm glad you found the idea unique and I really do think it's so important to realise that two people can both be right and speaking their own truth at the same time...

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  20. I loved this tips hun! I think I am quite good at number 3 but I definitely have to work on number 1 and 2 :)

    xx Lisa
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    1. Don't worry I'm working on all of these as well, although like you I think I'm pretty good at giving empathy!

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  21. Such a good read, I agree with everything you say in this post, Julia! I particularly love what you said about everyone having their own truth. Love that!

    Paula
    Thirteen Thoughts

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    1. Thanks Paula, it's funny because it's such a basic thing yet it's so easy to forget!

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  22. Great post and great post for being a better person. According to me we should be able to enjoy our own company. If we are able to do so we can be strong enough to be a better human being. Very informative post.

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    1. Thanks Kathreen, I agree that being able to enjoy your own company is a brilliant thing!

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  23. I think it's important for people to be self-aware and look at ways they can perhaps improve in small ways (within reason, a healthy dose of self-esteem is also important!). I'm trying to talk less and listen more - it's surprising how much you can learn from people when you give them a chance to speak, and are genuinely interested in what they have to say :).

    - Lubna | The Digital Review

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